• Goals Gone Wild

Why bother following your dreams?

In the words of the late/great Mitch Hedberg "I'm sick of following my dreams. I'm just going to ask them where they're goin', and hook up with them later." In the pursuit of your passions might I suggest a sense of humor, it is the greatest weapon against adversity.

I could have easily (and not easily) pursued a path of guaranteed income and stability and just as simply taken a long walk off a short pier while wearing cement shoes. Here's the deal, when you have a passion that burns an intense fire in your heart it cannot be extinguished, for it is the life within you. Choosing against creativity for an artist is a colorless death. In the absence of art and creating I have time and again found myself in the grips of depression. The only thing to break me free from that strong hold has been to acknowledge who and what I am, a creative. Funny how the thing that gives me purpose and joy also can send me into the downward spiral of despair. Here is the trap that myself and fellow ”starving artists" face, everything is going to cost you something. To walk a path you blaze yourself, it will cost you everything. Financial stability. Social life. Sleep. Health. Time. Relationships. Plus, many more. It is up to you to assign value to what remains in your life when your goals get priority. For me personally, right now that means I choose family, I choose work (to supplement my artist income), and truthfully, as a wife and Stepmom there isn't much room leftover for anything else. Occasionally, health gets the spotlight too. Social life, having lots of stuff, traveling, etc...those things are not on my radar right now and that's okay, those things pale in comparison to the feeling of getting closer to a self-built lifestyle career of passion.

How do you stay inspired and Driven?

Commitment and consistency. Show up for yourself and make what you need to succeed a priority. Choose day after day to take the actions that will get you the results you are seeking. I know if I make minor changes to my daily routine for better or worse they have a giant impact on my overall outlook and state of being. Things as simple as cleaning, eating healthy, exercise, laughing at some ridiculous video of a deer falling on a kids slide (, spending time on my business, enjoying my spouse and kids company, free-diving, journaling, etc...these all are things that contribute to a healthy lifestyle for me. On the flip side, eating too many ice cream sandwiches, not exercising/stretching, too much social media, putting everyone's needs before mine, reading family circus, not policing negative and self destructive thoughts ,etc can lead to an overwhelming case of apathy that takes tremendous work to get out of. It's easier to keep the object in motion than to let it stop and get it to move again.


If you have found yourself having a particularly hard day get some eyeliner or a washable marker and draw some glasses on your face. You can't cry when you look that stupid. I've tried, also drawing eyebrows on a baby is super effective too. The point is, find a way to make yourself laugh.

Here’s how to do it:

  1. Write down your goals and what you are doing to achieve them. (Daily)

  2. Plan for setbacks and low times where you feel like a failure and want to quit. Trust that this is a sign you are in the right direction. Don't give up!

  3. Surround yourself with people who believe in you. If you are the only one that believes in you, then at least when you are alone you are in great company. (Feel free to message me if there is no one else who supports you and I will cheer you on!)

  4. GO OUTSIDE!!! Be in nature, it is the greatest recharge you can give yourself.

  5. Get exercise, it is one of the best ways I have found to think my way from obstacle to opportunity. If you work out hard enough, all you can think about is not dying and that's also a lovely break from trying to figure your entire life out every moment of every day.

  6. Listen to inspiring podcasts, read books, educate yourself on what the successful people you admire did to get where they are, pray, laugh, and find your energizing motivators.

  7. Create your own list of ideas how to stoke your fire within. You know what you need to hear more than anyone else. You could wait a lifetime to hear from other people the words that will set you free. Do not underestimate the power of those words spoken in your own voice.

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